Failing at Having Ethics

3.09.2015

Forget working out and getting healthy -- 2015 marked the year I told myself I was going to put my big girl pants on and stand my ground (ethically, NOT IN THE FUCKED UP FLORIDA WAY). What I didn't realize was that I would, in fact, be putting on my literal big girls pants because I've gained a size. But that is beside the point. Or is it? ...maybe getting in shape should have been my resolution.

Like all early year hopes and dreams, this ethical proclamation has been a bit of a failure.

MY 2015 "STAND BY YOUR ETHICS" GOALS:

1. Stop eating bacon.

Why? I think pigs are very smart and I probably shouldn't eat them. Sorry, Esther the Wonder Pig, I love you. But I had a really tasty bacon breakfast as recent as one week ago. So, fail. Again, sorry Esther.

2. Cut down on my fast fashion buying -- meaning no more Forever21 and cut down on the Zara/H&M!

Why? No one should be able to buy jeans for $5, it's just not right. And beyond the child labor and poorly made crap that falls apart and fills up landfills, I wish to respect designers' creative rights to their work.

And I know what you're thinking,"Bitch, please. You love a good knock off." And you are correct. But I'm trying not to!!! I'm working myself up to level 4: full respect of all big giant fashion houses, but I'm currently only at the level 1: respect for small designers. I'll let you know when I've figured out what levels 2-3 are.

So, what are the R-E-S-P-E-C-T rules? 

Really
Evaulate
Softness,
Purposefully
Examine
Care
Techniques

...I'm kidding. 

The Real Rules: Well, level 4 requires me to stop buying blatant knock offs of runway looks. I am absolved of guilt if I didn't realize it was a runway knock off because I weren't paying attention to Fashion Week. Possibly related to why I paid zero attention to Fashion Week this past month... plausible deniability. These Damages marathons have really been paying off, I'm a regular Patty Hewes!

But seeing as I'm just taking ethical baby steps, my current goals are to respect the care and thoughtfulness that smaller designers/brands/companies put into their work and support them in their endeavors. Meaning no more, "Oh I could get that cheaper at H&M", "I could make that myself", etc... I enjoy deals and it's fun to be thrifty, but I truly loath cheapness. Not deal saavy, scoring a deal type "cheapness," but inherent, ingrained cheapness. Probably a product of privilege and my upbringing, because everyone has their own relative ideas of value according to their own personal finances, but I have a real aversion... towards the aversion... of spending money. Also an aversion towards judgement from others for spending money "wastefully", so like... good job self for starting a YouTube channel where some people seem to spend their days counting up what someone's latest haul cost them and what their rent probably is and therefore they must make this much or their husband must be buying it all blah blah blah. It's all relative, folks! But yes, I have a judgmental attitude towards cheapness. In the same way that people who are cheap have an aversion to people like me, which I respect. So it ends up being a giant mess of aversion and respect and more aversion and I online shop to distract myself from it. Winky face.

But anyways, back to the "I'm trying to be an adult with morals and ethics and I don't want to shop at stores that use child labor, steal artists' ideas, etc" ....BUT FOREVER 21 IS MAKING IT HARD ON A BITCH. I mean, just look at these cheap material-ed, poorly constructed beauties:

WHAT THE HELL. HOW ARE THESE ONLY $32.90?!?!

[ Peep-Toe Faux Leather Mules ]
COATS THAT LOOK SO MUCH BETTER IN PICTURES THAN IN PERSON GALORE!!

[ Open Front Coat ] + [ Heathered Knit Coat ]
[ Boxy Woven Moto Jacket ] + [ Oversized Longline Overcoat ]
WHY ISN'T SHE WEARING PANTS? I DON'T KNOW BUT I LIKE HER BOMBER!

[ Scuba Knit Bomber Jacket ]
...FOR THE COOL BALLET DANCER TO THROW OVER HER UNITARD + TUTU.

BUT SERIOUSLY. HOW THE HELL ARE THESE $32.90?!?!?!?!?!


UGH. Having ethics sucks. I don't think I can hold out for those mules.
I mean... I would buy the Tibi Leona if I could find them anywhere in my size! 
Rationalizations.

4 comments:

  1. Those mules have been in my basket on Forever 21 all day...

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  2. I agree with everything you said. period. end of story.

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  3. those mules. man...... I don't think I have enough ethics for that.

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  4. I am sympathetic to both of these issues and the ethical struggle. I could do the whole no pork thing if bacon just didn't exist or if turkey bacon was in any way similar to actual bacon other than being in strip form.

    The issue with fashion is that the gap between 1 and 4 is so large monetarily and in terms of accessibility. The cheapness and accessibility of clothing at forever21 and h&m just pushes level 2/3 makers out of the market. I do think smaller online boutique shops are closing the gap, but the community around them needs to be built up and made more shareable? It's hard to seek out level 2/3 makers and you just have to kind of randomly stumble upon them by scouring instagram feeds, trusted quality blogs, and through the mess that is the etsy/bigcartel market (in my experience).

    I wish there was a support group for these issues as I'm sure many people struggle with similar commodity based ethical issues!

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Thanks!